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Mother In Waiting

I have a friend – Cheryl – whom I’ve known for well over 20 years. The other day, I got a message from her asking for help. While many of the rest of people I went to school with have had at least one child (if they want any), she and her husband are struggling. Over the past few years, they’ve dealt with a variety of health problems and preexisting conditions. The result of these problems and conditions is that natural conception is not an option for them. She and her husband would love to have children and would be great parents to any children they manage to have. They have attempted In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) already which resulted in a pregnancy that, unfortunately, ended in the miscarriage of a much loved and wanted baby.

Cheryl and Colin would like to try IVF again, but the cost is prohibitive. It costs $14,000 per treatment. That’s $14,000 that our provincial health plans won’t cover. They’re asking for help because even with them both working (and Cheryl at two jobs), it’s difficult for them to pull together that $14,000 without going into debt. They’ve already raised 1/10th of the funds they need for the procedure but they still need another $12,600 .

She asked me to help spread the word. So this is for Cheryl – a mother-in-waiting: if you can spare a little bit, please go here to donate. If you can’t, please consider helping to spread the word so that those who can donate have the chance to help Cheryl and Colin start their family.

To all those who help even just a little bit, thank you.

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The Boy Generation

In the spring, I found out that one of my cousins on my mother’s side is pregnant. This threw me for a little bit because I was sure the oldest was about 17 – I haven’t seen her in ages. The reality is that she’s turning 25 this year. Anyway, after giving birth to two boys and having my husband’s first son move in with us, I was hoping my cousin was going to have a girl for whom I could buy cute little dresses. Contrary to my hopes, she found out that she, too, is having a boy. This, of course, is great for hand-me-downs (if she’ll accept them). I’m sure that I’ve got a few cool outfits that hardly got worn at all.

When I fully realized that this would be my grandparents’ third great-grandson, I started thinking a little more about the family composition. My mother was the oldest of five – three daughters and two sons (one of whom was adopted). Her generation was mostly girls. Between the five of them, they had seven children – six girls and one boy (my brother). Again, my generation was mostly girls. Of the seven of us, only three of us are old enough to responsibly have children by the end of the year, we’ll be three for three in favour of boys.

They certainly are turning out to be the boy generation so far. Maybe it’s a good thing we live on the other side of the country – after all those girls, I don’t know if they could handle a pile of boys.

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The Birth of a Mother – Part 2

I’ve been spending some time reading posts on the Birth Without Fear (BWF) Facebook site recently and have been amazed by all the mothers choosing home births over hospital births. Eventually, though, I discovered part of the reason behind both this and the growing use of midwives. If you’ve ever watched any of those baby shows, you’ll notice that all the parents seems to know that this is the day their baby is going to be born. I didn’t quite understand how they could just know like that until I made the connection with all of the stories on BWF – apparently, scheduling births through induction or c-sections is a big thing with OBs and many mothers have had unwanted c-sections because of this. In response, I want to tell my birth stories to let people know that it’s not like that everywhere and you can use doctors in some areas without worrying about unwanted procedures.

When I tested positive for my second little guy, I had a family doctor but he was so busy that he suggested I stick with the clinic that I used the first time. I didn’t have a problem with that since I had a good experience with them. The low risk clinic was also conveniently located close to where I was working at the time so I could schedule an appointment for the morning and go to work afterwards.

This pregnancy was – in a word – normal. During my October appointment, they made sure that I got my flu shot (with no preservatives) and apologized for not being able to give one to my toddler – they had only been supplied with enough for their expectant mothers and not for their young children (very much how the drugstores had been promised the one with no preservatives and then were told they weren’t getting them). They did, however give my little guy a sticker and a sucker for being good during the appointment. For my Christmas appointment, they gave him a candy cane!

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The Birth of a Mother – Part 1

I’ve been spending some time reading posts on the Birth Without Fear (BWF) Facebook site recently and have been amazed by all the mothers choosing home births over hospital births. Eventually, though, I discovered part of the reason behind both this and the growing use of midwives. If you’ve ever watched any of those baby shows, you’ll notice that all the parents seems to know that this is the day their baby is going to be born. I didn’t quite understand how they could just know like that until I made the connection with all of the stories on BWF – apparently, scheduling births through induction or c-sections is a big thing with OBs and many mothers have had unwanted c-sections because of this. In response, I want to tell my birth stories to let people know that it’s not like that everywhere and you can use doctors in some areas without worrying about unwanted procedures.

When I tested positive for my first little guy, I didn’t have a family doctor. The clinic doctor that tested me referred me to a low risk maternity clinic that had my local Hospital name attached. I hate calling strangers, so I decided to go there in person to make my initial appointment. I had no clue where I was going, so I went to the Hospital and found my way to the obstetrics department where they informed me that they only take high-risk patients. They were kind enough to give me the address of the clinic that I was looking for and told me how to get there.

The clinic itself was great. They had a variety of female doctors, most of whom I met with over the course of my pregnancy. They also always had one doctor at the Hospital in case one of their patients went into labour. Their support was wonderful and they always made sure to answer any questions that I had. By the time my estimated due date came around, I was confident that everything was going to be fine…and then the due date rolled right by.

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